When talking about life & the journey we have over time it is a culmination of all the choices & decisions we’ve made or are making overtime and the response or results of those things. Most time our choices aren’t based on others, our generation, or what is deemed normal, but us as individuals & hopefully we can live with results that come from them and not only embrace them but improve overtime knowing we can work on something regardless of the circumstances or situation. Some choices we make are minuscule & routine, others are major, life-changing, & pivotal to us, however, they are or wherever they come from, the biggest thing is how do we face the decisions we make personally & the adversity that comes with it, in some cases how we approach it is optimal for the situation other times it may be terrible or the worst-case scenario, but the biggest thing is how we adapt and adjust afterward.
Choices & Decisions
When it comes to the choices & decisions they are an important factor in our lives and there is no way around them or to pass them off to the next person because we have to live with how they pan out no matter what happens or who made them, to begin with. Like I said before some choices are small and don’t require lots of effort or decisiveness while others are substantial requiring lots of effort when they are made & can be life-changing and pivotal to our walk in life, the other factor that plays into that is time somethings don’t require a big sacrifice, while others have a substantial input for them to work whether they include others or are just us. What it comes down to is understanding that the choices we make are a mixture between ones we make for ourselves & ones we make involving others whether done by us or people around us because it requires cooperation at its basic level. Especially when we are making choices and decisions with others in mind there is outside force whether people or things, we face different circumstances whichever route we take. When dealing with others we are having to juggle so many factors throughout the interactions whether friends, family, collaborations, etc., some people live by double standards (a rule or principle which is unfairly applied in different ways to different people or groups) or throw up assumptions (thing that is accepted as true or as certain to happen, without proof) that have no basis or baseline to work from, some people live in hypocrisy (the practice of claiming to have moral standards or beliefs to which one's own behavior does not conform), others live by deception, deceiving others that don’t know no better, at the end of the day others can’t be treated like the movie “Inception” where an idea is planted in hopes of swaying people to change or do things our way, nudging people to an outcome they see optimal, most times people subscribe to the idea of control where people do as they want all the time but life & people aren’t like that whatsoever and if it does work it only temporary or limited, a better way of looking at things most times is that certain things we do come with a level of codependency (excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, typically one who requires support) because some things require us to be independent individuals who can stand on their own & handle certain things alone, other times require others for it to work effectively and efficiently, this is not to say it’s impossible to pull off, but why play with one hand tied behind your back, blindfolded, in quicksand when you can do it better with the resources of people & things around you, even if it leaves you dependent & possibly vulnerable in the process of doing so. No matter what, when we are making decisions or choices including others, it shouldn’t feel like waving a white flag in surrender because how things are going because of adversity & we learn about others in the first place through the low points, not the good times or positive moments sometimes & in the best case scenario people are complementary to us, not just filling a void of where we are lacking as people, no matter what choice we make or how it pans out, a basic level of cooperation is needed sometimes, through the process we find what every relationship is about around us, for example, was it one of the times where people got what they wanted now its “out of sight outta mind” making proximity a factor even though some people take it for granted, is it a situation where people are getting comfortable & going on autopilot because things are good for a moment? , because in the best case scenario we answer these questions about family, friends, collaborators, acquaintances, etc. (people around us) before things go south & when we face adversity we have to face those things & hopefully make choices that are based on us adapting to what we know at a certain point, because the foundation of every relationship is some kind of exchange, some are clear like when we go to eat or buy something there is a trade of monetary resources for a service or thing, other times it’s not a concise or clear cut for certain reasons, but makes you ask the question “What do you bring?” or “Is it reciprocal?” not to be a downer or a over analyzing people just because, but grasping the situation & actually being present enough to make choices that are relevant to us when dealing with others over time, because we can’t will others to be happy or not bored at times, something’s just come from inside and two we can’t read minds & the randomness of people making life uncertain sometimes but once we understand others we interact with and their decisions, then we are better for it bringing clarity, it may make us ask the question to the “What is left?” in response to tough times & it may leave us feeling a certain way, but it’s better than living in perpetual ignorance.
Even on an individual level we have things we agree & disagree on, principles, values, and morals we live by (no one person is exempt from this) & even if we don’t hold the same ideology as our family, friends, etc. & have differences here and there, doesn’t mean we just get rid of people off the top because some of the best interactions we have are when we actually converse even if it comes with push back as a result. No matter what choices we make there is a level of chance & risk involved in it, not in a gambling sense but even though things seem like they are automatic doesn’t mean so & when we do things they don’t always go our way. No matter if it’s from an individual perspective or dealing with others any experience takes time, energy, & being patient with the decisions we make because however things go whether good or bad there is an Investment that happens on our part as a result.
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In My Blood Shawn Mendes
Results
One villain that sticks out is Erik Killmonger (best theme music as a side note) played by Michael B. Jordan in Black Panther, he may be hit or miss with a lot of people, but what makes the character great is he isn’t a cut and dry antagonist, he was raised in Oakland, father killed by his brother who was king of Wakanda & Black Panther at the time, left after that moment of his death in Oakland even though he was of royal lineage & as a result grew up with a chip on his shoulder & became a killing machine looking for retribution throughout, he may of went about it wrong to most, but he had valid reasoning for his actions sometimes & at the end of the day most black people in America can relate to the character in some way because of his backstory, one moment that sticks out is when they were introducing him to T’Challa, the CIA agent Everett Ross played by Martin Freeman said “we created him” which is true because results & journeys are based on a lot of factors, some we can’t control but what we do is our reaction & our responses, it’s the same with results they may go good or bad depending on a lot but the real factor is what happens after. When talking results in a general way, what can it comes down to is some choices we make are time-sensitive requiring quick responses, others are elongated & constantly developing over time, changing & even when make the best decision for the scenario they are filled with good breaks & bad breaks throughout no matter what, however the results pan out they make people put up & back up what they did in making their choices.
The foundation of decisions is experiencing, no matter how it goes it makes us experts or authorities in the process because we have seen certain things over time, sometimes we can even feel crazy for things that are abnormal, other times we can try being preventative or be proactive because of certain factors but being frank we can’t avoid every experience but take them & grow from them because every choice comes with consequences & responsibility and we become accountable for them. When we make decisions the biggest part of it all is understanding there is a method to the madness in most situations ,look at “The Goldbox” for example the way I do things is for a reason, like on all small level there are no ads whatsoever because I don’t want them on the website right now it may change but not now, on bigger scale I don’t want to just be the only perspective you hear on here hence the reason for “The Goldbox Spotlight”, “The 101” series, or even just having collaborators consistently on here, I want people to see different views and perspectives not just mine over time, a good example of this is the late John wooden who was the basketball coach at UCLA, he comes up because the first thing he did at the beginning of the season was tying shoes, it may seem like something meniscule & new players would wonder why, but upperclassmen knew the routine, people may have overlooked it but it had it’s purpose and reasons were for the bigger picture of success, it’s the same with the Mister Rodgers
that was on PBS for a while, he had officer Clemons played by Francois Scarborough Clemons on his show regularly & did things constantly with follow-through, same with the late Charles Schulz, he created Franklin because of a letter he received after Martin Luther King Jr.’s assassination asking for representation, oftentimes people think there’s in no intention when people do things or just “going with the flow” it’s far from that or chance because the things we do control & actually make choices that have an impact some way whether we do something or nothing.
What happens a lot is people start to compare everything they are doing off others and things around them, I’ve fallen to it & others have too but the main thing about this is when we look at results or the outcome so many factors play a role in it often, this is relevant sometimes in things like motorsports like F1 because two drivers on the same team have the same things like the car and resources
but even there are gonna be several differences separating each of them from setup to skill set, it proves even that choices we make over time shouldn’t be based on others entirely because the results are going to vary case by case, getting down to brass tack and the results of our decisions everyone has different routines & tendencies that make us different & makes every journey different & the speed of everything happening different leaving somethings as delayed gratification for us like going to college pursuing a degree, becoming a doctor (MD), or doing something big that takes time, the best way I can explain this is taking a road trip as a person in a car specifically, I like driving & with the right people the journey can be phenomenal depending on people’s mindset from the jump even if the trip goes south or goes smoothly overall, what makes me bring this up is whenever you drive into Texas from Louisiana across the Sabine River mile marker 0 on I-10 west (like on I-45 south when you reach Galveston) you see a particular sign (especially if you live in southeast Texas) stating 857 miles to El Paso, which is a 12 hour drive (13 with a break) but I bring this up is because unlike driving I-45 North from Galveston to Dallas which is a 4 hour trip you can do with one driver no problem, it’s the opposite because of limitations where you can only do 8 hours, needing a 2nd driver for the trip & it takes patience and resilience over time to get there which is the same mentality with life, even with the results doing somethings take progress through all the adversity (despite the results) and help from other things to reach the goal we have. It’s the same with people through out we are always searching for equality even though it is equity people are looking for, because fundamentally we are all good at different things and trying to get even over time is a different pursuit, it makes it harder sometimes because people like to pick a side which is easier sometimes than making a decision based off of our own views & adjusting from their because we don’t always come to the same conclusions, there are good examples of this like Emmitt Smith & his son, the former Dallas Cowboys RB’s son signed to play football at Stanford but he went to Florida, but he gave a response to the effect of “his journey is not mine” because he is leaving room for him to make his own choices not live in a shadow, the other example is Karl Malone when he was asked about Michael Jordan & his loss to him in the NBA Finals as a member of the Utah Jazz , he didn’t tap dance around it and gave a straight answer about the the entire scenario from his view, you may not agree with him or like him but over time he made his peace and can talk about it.
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It’s the same with now people predicate their views and perspectives on an idea they see out here from others even if it just a facade or an empty shell, basically comparing their own results with others which don’t really help & no matter what progress (although slow at times) beats aesthetics (which can be fleeting) then to top this off people now get FOMO (fear of missing out) because of the time we live in & response people will flake or go ghost treating people as an option of the time rather then like the way they want to be treated (golden rule) because the biggest thing about things like social media to this effect is more than shout outs which play there role but it’s not the end be all, same with status people chase it because of the upside it brings at the time & the spectacle that comes along with it but things are way bigger. No matter where results are from in our choices are a benchmark to a lot, but every situation comes with different conditions changing the outcome & the biggest part is not being complainers because it doesn’t go our way or just pandering, patronizing, or enabling others because it feels better than failure or disappointment at the moment, oftentimes we have memories or nostalgia for things we have experienced in some way leaving us thinking things will go the same way & the equivalent to that is romanticizing things wearing rose-colored glasses, but the best way to go about it is understanding things are changing & adapting and putting attention & focus to things we have control over & the results we experience are a culmination of all factors around us & sometimes takes optimism on our part.
Excuse The Language.
Ambition Domics
Domics Dumb Argument
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Attention Charlie Puth
Faith
Now we have made our choice or decision & seen the repercussions or results of them something’s require faith [ believe without seeing something I talked about it in the article Just A Thought: Death Pt.2 ] to see through sometimes, even after disappointment, the best way to describe this is something’s are a test of attrition (the action or process of gradually reducing the strength or effectiveness of someone or something through sustained attack or pressure.) the best way to describe this is waves crashing into the shore and upon receding taking some sand with it, sometimes we are left below average because of certain things but it takes a certain level of hope to understand this is only momentary. An example of this is Messi & Allyson Felix, Messi is an Argentinian soccer player for FC Barcelona, he is prolific & before he became big, he had growth hormone issue when he was younger but despite that he improved & progressed to where he is at FC Barca now, the other is Allyson Felix when she was younger she was nicknamed “chicken legs” when pursuing basketball, then she switched to track & field and came prolific as a runner on the international level when looking at each example and just things in life there is an evolution overall & some patience is required for things to actually change over just like with Messi or Felix & leaves us asking sometimes “What is missing ?” to get over the hump & doing that takes resilience and determination as a result.
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Walk button Key & Peele
Procrastinating Domics
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Leap of Faith Into The Spider-Verse
Domics Parenting
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Epilogue
No matter what it takes understanding that choices & decisions vary in length as well as carry a certain impact as well when looking at the results, it is a balance being closed off because we are practicing discretion and being open enough so that others can learn from us and not just cherry-pick what we feel is comfortable to us. It just like playing chess no matter what there is an endgame to every match played & it ends somehow but the endgame changes depending on an individual’s goals, sometimes we are put into checkmate other times we are on the verge of winning but the biggest thing is time we use, the experience we get, & there is no perfect time for a lot, even though it may not look like it at the time, doing certain things open up possibilities for us & sometimes requires focus & not just attention for the moment as well as self-awareness of our own skillset, also it takes an understanding of it is team effort sometimes like a cornerman in boxing we need people around us to keep us going & sometimes people provide a safety net for us because of their own experiences when they are not just self projecting or beating a dead horse trying to get their point across & it takes communication to do so efficiently. When getting down to the basics & our choices it takes a risk of losing everything so we have no
regrets in the long run after making our decisions, not being indecisive & tap dancing like Fred Astaire in indecision, it’s just like the mantra “Anyone can get it” just because we serve up a certain perspective or choice, we should be prepared for the repercussions wherever they come from & it’s same when we make decisions overall.